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Cowgirl

Also called: On top, Rider on top

One partner lies back, the other straddles them facing forward and sets the pace.

How to do it

One partner lies on their back. The other kneels astride their hips, facing them, and lowers down. The partner on top controls depth, speed and angle by leaning forward, sitting upright or leaning back on their hands. Leaning forward onto the bottom partner's chest is closer and gentler; sitting upright is deeper.

What it's good for

Letting the partner on top lead. Great for finding exactly the right angle, and the bottom partner has hands free and a good view.

Make it easier

Rocking forward and back takes less effort than bouncing up and down. A pillow under the bottom partner's head keeps eye contact easy.

A small tip

The bottom partner can hold the rider's hips to help with rhythm, or keep still and let them lead entirely.

Comfort and care

Go slowly when lowering down. Coming down hard at the wrong angle can hurt a penis or a toy. Keep the motion controlled.

Agree on it before you try it, use plenty of lube, and either of you can stop at any point. This guide is general information, not medical advice.

Scenes it suits

All scenes

Evenings built around a room style, with this position as one of the options.

A dusky pink bedroom with gilt mirrors, French windows, two lamps and a bench at the foot of a white bed

Parisian Boudoir

Playing · After Midnight

The Pink Room Dares

A jar of dares, a gilt mirror, and everyone writing their own.

A rust plaster bedroom with two black pendant lamps, a linen-covered wooden bed and a woven pouf

Warm Organic

Reconnecting · After Midnight

Back From Away

Someone's been gone too long. The welcome home starts in the bedroom.

A lacquered navy bedroom with gold peacock panels, a velvet bed and a tufted bench at its foot

Maximalist

Playing · After Midnight

The Peacock Room

Gold-leaf peacocks, a velvet bench, and a deck of dares.