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The Yes / No / Maybe list

Find where you overlap.

Mark each idea privately. Share your link with a partner and you'll see only where you overlap, never each other's no's.

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Nothing is sent to a server unless you choose to save it to your account. Otherwise your answers live only inside the link you choose to share. Close the tab and they're gone.

Setting the scene

Low lighting and candlesThe easiest shift. Soft light quiets self-consciousness fast.
A playlist made for the nightMusic sets the pace and eases silence; build it together.
Dressing up for each otherAnticipation starts before the bedroom.
A planned, unhurried eveningRemoving time pressure is often the single biggest change.
A weekend away togetherNew surroundings reset routine and reawaken attention.
Sharing a bath or showerWarm, low-stakes, and slow, a gentle on-ramp to touch.
A slow, unhurried massageNon-goal touch builds trust and lets tension go first.
A slow dance at homeThirty seconds of swaying changes the whole evening.
Phones in another roomFull attention is its own kind of seduction.
Fresh sheets and a made bedA small effort that says tonight is planned.
A favorite scent in the roomScent works fast. Keep it soft, not smoky.
Dinner that turns into dessert in bedLet one pleasure lead into the next.
A hotel night in our own cityAll the novelty, none of the travel.
Making out like teenagersKissing with nowhere to rush to.
Firelight, or a fire on the TVFlicker reads warm. Real or not, it works.
A note left on the pillowAnticipation, in writing.

Touch and sensation

Blindfolds and anticipationRemoving sight heightens every other sensation.
Soft textures: feathers, silkLight, teasing contrast that keeps skin awake.
Warm and cool temperature playWarm oil, cool breath or glass. Start subtle.
Light scratchingNails traced slowly; agree on pressure first.
Massage oils or candlesAdds glide and warmth. Choose body-safe, skin-friendly formulas.
A featherlight teaseBarely-there touch that builds craving before more.
Firm, grounding pressureSteady weight or a held hand can feel deeply reassuring.
Kissing everywhere but the obvious placesThe detour is the point.
Hair pulled gentlyGrip close to the scalp, and ask about pressure.
Being kissed on the neckSlow, soft, and close to the ear.
Warm breath without touchingBarely there, and very hard to ignore.
Fingertips only, no palmsLighter touch makes skin pay attention.
A full-body oil massageUse a body-safe oil and towels you don't mind ruining.
Skin against skin, just lying stillCloseness with no goal at all.
Biting, gentlyLips and teeth together, and never break skin.

Give and take

Light restraints: cuffs or tiesStart soft and quick-release; keep safety scissors nearby.
Being gently restrainedLetting go of control can feel freeing when trust is high.
Taking the leadDirecting the pace, responsibility as much as power.
Following a partner's leadReceiving direction. An active, chosen kind of surrender.
Setting a scene with simple rulesA few agreed "rules" add playful structure.
Agreeing on a safeword firstA word that instantly pauses everything. Settle it before you begin.
One of us not allowed to touchHands at your sides, or on the headboard.
Taking turns being in chargeOne night each. Trade notes after.
Asking permission for everythingSlower, and surprisingly hot.
Being told to waitAnticipation, on purpose.
Giving each other instructionsClear and kind. Either of you can say pause.
A hand signal to stopFor when talking isn't easy. Agree on it first.
Checking in with a color: green, yellow, redGreen go on, yellow slow down, red stop.

Toys and tools

Introducing a vibratorThe most approachable first toy; rumbly beats buzzy for most.
App-connected couples toysGreat for distance or handing over control. Reliability matters.
Positioning furniture: a wedge or rampFirm support eases angles and strain; firmness beats size.
A wand massagerBroad, powerful, and versatile. A long-standing favorite.
Shopping for something togetherChoosing as a team is part of the anticipation.
Trying something brand newNovelty itself is a spark. Pick one small thing.
A couples vibrator worn during sexHands-free for both of you.
A remote-controlled toyHanding over the remote is half the fun.
Using a toy on each otherTake turns, and let the other show you how.
Watching your partner use a toyLearn exactly what they like.
A ring toy that vibrates, for both of usStretchy and worn during sex. Both of you feel it.
Lube as a regular part of thingsNot a fix, an upgrade. Water-based works with everything.
A bedside drawer just for usEverything within reach means fewer pauses.
Trying a toy we already own, differentlyNew angle, new place, new person holding it.

Words and imagination

Sharing a fantasy out loudNaming it isn't a commitment to do it.
Playful talk during intimacyA few words of encouragement can change everything.
Flirty messages during the dayDesire built slowly over hours, not minutes.
Reading something togetherA shared story is a low-pressure way to explore.
Trying a persona or rolePlaying a character can loosen everyday inhibition.
Writing a wish list for each otherPut wants on paper when saying them aloud feels hard.
Telling each other exactly what we wantSpecific is generous. Vague is guesswork.
Describing what you'll do before you do itWords first, touch second.
A voice note sent during the dayPrivate, for later. Delete when you like.
Talking about a fantasy during sexA story you build together in the moment.
Being told how good you lookOut loud, while it's happening.
Saying each other's nameSimple, and it lands every time.
Strangers at a bar, role-playedMeet somewhere, arrive separately, flirt.
Writing each other a sexy letterSlow to write, slower to read.
Talking about a scene from a book or filmEasier to point at than to describe.

Rhythms and rituals

Trying a new positionSmall angle changes can matter more than dramatic ones.
A new spot at homeA change of place breaks autopilot.
Morning instead of nightEnergy and mood differ by time of day. Experiment.
Aftercare: cuddling and checking inWinding down together is part of it, not an add-on.
A standing date nightProtected time beats waiting for spontaneity.
Choosing to schedule intimacyPlanning isn't unromantic. It's prioritizing.
A regular yes / no / maybe check-inDesires change; revisit this list every so often.
Sex in the showerNon-slip mat first. Warm water, slow pace.
A quickieFast can be fun, especially with a promise for later.
Waking each other up for sexAgree first which mornings are a yes.
A whole lazy afternoon in bedNo plans, no clock, snacks within reach.
Taking turns choosing the nightYour night, then mine.
A long kiss goodbye in the morningSets the tone for the whole day.
Lights onSeeing each other is half of it.
Staying in bed after, talkingThe best conversations happen here.
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What is a yes, no, maybe list?

A yes, no, maybe list is a set of ideas that each partner marks privately: yes, I'd like to; maybe, I'm curious; or no, not for me. Comparing the two lists shows where you overlap, which makes it much easier to talk about what you'd both enjoy. Ours is a private, interactive version: there's nothing to print, and nobody sees the other person's no's.

How it works

  1. Mark each idea on your own. There are 39 ideas in six groups, from setting the scene and touch to words, rituals and toys. A franker set of eleven stays hidden unless you choose to show it.
  2. Share your link. Your answers are packed into the link itself. Send it to your partner however you like.
  3. Your partner fills in theirs. When they're done, you both see only the overlap.

What you see at the end

  • You both said yes: common ground you're both keen on.
  • Worth exploring: one yes and one maybe. An easy, low-pressure place to start.
  • Mutual curiosity: you're both a maybe. Talk it through and see.

A no from either of you hides that idea completely. It never shows up, and neither of you learns who said it. From the results you can open a printable booklet with conversation prompts for what you share.

Private by design

Nothing is sent to our server unless you choose to save your own answers to your account. Otherwise your answers live only in the link you share, and closing the tab clears them.

Common questions

How do you use a yes, no, maybe list as a couple?

Fill it in separately, somewhere quiet, without looking at each other's answers. Then compare and start with the shared yeses. Talk about the details over coffee rather than in the moment, and treat every maybe as a "let's talk" rather than a promise. Questions to ask your partner is a gentle way into that conversation.

Can my partner see my no's?

No. A no from either side removes the idea from the results entirely, so only shared interests show up.

Is the list explicit?

The main list is tasteful and written for any couple: lighting, touch, words, rituals and a few toys. A franker "Going further" set is there for couples who want it, and it stays hidden unless you open it.

What if we have very few overlaps?

That's useful to know, and it's common. Start with the one or two you share, and come back to the list in a few months. Answers change. Talking about boundaries and safewords and introducing something new, together help with the conversations that follow.

For something lighter, the Conversation Cards and games for couples at home keep the talking going.