Kama Sutra-inspiredCandlelitModerate

Lotus

Also called: Padmasana, Seated lotus, Yab-yum

Both sitting up, wrapped around each other. Slow, close and very still.

How to do it

One partner sits cross-legged on the bed or floor. The other sits in their lap facing them and wraps their legs around their waist, arms around their shoulders. Movement is a slow rocking or circling of the hips rather than thrusting. Breathe together and stay close.

What it's good for

Closeness, eye contact, synchronized breathing, and long, slow sessions that are more about connection than climax.

Make it easier

Sit against the headboard or a wall instead of unsupported. A cushion under the base partner's hips keeps knees comfortable.

A small tip

Try matching your breathing for a minute before you start moving. It changes the whole pace.

Comfort and care

Cross-legged sitting is hard on stiff hips and knees. Sit with legs out straight instead; it works just as well.

Agree on it before you try it, use plenty of lube, and either of you can stop at any point. This guide is general information, not medical advice.

Scenes it suits

All scenes

Evenings built around a room style, with this position as one of the options.

A rose paneled bedroom with a tall gilt mirror over an old dresser and a crystal chandelier above a pale bed

Parisian Boudoir

Slowing down · After Midnight

Mirror, Slowly

A gilt mirror, candlelight, and watching what slow looks like.

A large brick loft bedroom with string lights across black beams, a leather bench and tall factory windows

Industrial Loft

Celebrating · After Midnight

String Lights and a Toast

A big brick loft, string lights overhead, and a celebration that takes its time.

An open oak and black home studio with floor mats, a leather daybed, wall straps and a low ottoman

Athletic Studio

Unwinding · Candlelit

Partner Yoga, No Rules

Silly partner poses on the mat, more laughing than stretching.