The Lap Top

One partner sits on the edge of the bed, a sturdy bench or an armless chair, feet flat on the floor. The receiving partner sits on their lap facing them and lowers down. The seated partner wraps both arms around the receiving partner's lower back to hold them securely. The receiving partner then leans back into those arms and lifts their legs, one at a time, until both rest straight up against the seated partner's chest with ankles on their shoulders. The seated partner rocks them gently forward and back; the receiving partner can hold the seated partner's forearms or let their arms fall back. Bending the knees slightly makes it much easier to hold and only softens the angle a little.

Eye contact and a strong, steep angle while the seated partner does the holding. It feels secure once you're settled.

Rest only one leg on the seated partner's shoulder and keep the other foot on the seat or wrapped around their waist. Lean the receiving partner's back against the seated partner's knees for extra support.

Get comfortable in an ordinary lap sit first, then lift the legs. Trying to do it all at once usually ends in a tumble.

This asks for flexible hamstrings and a seated partner with a strong core. Use a bench or chair that can't tip, and come down if either of you starts to strain.

An armless padded bench gives room to lean back and won't tip.

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